Liberty Sarai

Since the day she was born, I have written in a book for her.....Everyday!  I haven't written in her book for a long time.  I am on my computer more and I still don't write.  Anyhoo, I am writing now.

Libby is amazing beyond words.  She is smart, HILARIOUS, caring, destructive, and wild!  A few months ago, Liberty had a speech assessment and she was behind on language but ahead on cognitive.  She has been doing great with speaking lately.  She talks about everything.  I love to see her grow, learn, and discover new things.  Libby, I love you more than words.  Though you may let your ADD kick our butt, you are a precious gift and I LOVE YOU!

Biracial

"What are you?" is a question I have heard very frequently throughout my life.


What am I?  What did they mean? This was an ignorant way of asking my ethnicity.  When people would ask me this question, I started to question who I was.  My mom tried her best but I don't think that she fully understood how to handle the feeling I had of not fitting in.  I always felt insecure about me.  I felt I had to suppress a part of me.  Its funny but I felt like I always had to identify with being "black" instead of embracing both sides of me.    I am only speaking for me but I think that all or most of mixed individuals feel those sort of feelings of misplacement.  

I'm not really sure how to start out this post because I am not sure how it happened.  I can't stop think about the way things happened and I talk about it to process this. Over at Mother & Baby (Naomi Cotterill) explains it best:

As you can choose the people you'd like to be the godparents of your child, "many people believe that it is safest to elect a relative as they are bound by ties of blood but you might find that someone outside of the family can offer a different perspective," says Wendy. "Things to consider are the person's reliability, their beliefs and whether or not they have the time and desire to be part of the process."
Whether you choose family members or close friends, it is worth taking the time to think about the role you'd like the godparent to play in your child's life.
While godparents rarely have any legal responsibilities, the people that you choose are committing to a lifelong involvement with your family and they need to feel comfortable with this. It's a good idea to sit down with the people you've chosen to chat about your expectations and their understanding of the role. If you're having a christening in a church, check what the minister or priest requires of the godparents, as you may need to discuss these prior to the day.

Playing the role

If you've been asked to be a godparent, you're occupying a special place in your godchild's life. Being a good godparent isn't rocket science, but taking an interest in the role is generally appreciated. "A good godparent is there for the child in a loving and caring way and offers support, friendship and a gentle push in the right direction as they get older," says Wendy. In days gone by, the chosen adults would have been expected to have consistent involvement in the day-to-day lives of their godson or goddaughter's life, monitoring their spiritual development and ensuring they stay on the straight and narrow.
Expectations have since changed, but regular contact and a general willingness to be involved in the child’s life now the acceptable norm.
"Take your godchild for an outing or take them for an ice cream, simply spending time together works a treat," says Wendy. Becoming a 'third' parent to a godchild can be a wonderfully rewarding, not to mention fun experience. You'll also get first dibs on the delicious cake served after the formalities are finished!

I'm still hurt. I can't believe it.  I'm not obsessed but this is my "haunting" item.